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The First Day of Spring Picnic

With the arrival of nice weather, it seemed like a perfect time for a Grandma, Aunties, and grandchildren outing to the park to play and have a picnic. The girls and I packed sandwiches, apples, chips, cookies, and water for all. Since so many of the little ones are in car seats, we took Nathan and Christopher’s minivans.

It was a perfect day, with wonderful children, and everyone had a delightful time as you can see.

Trusting in Jesus,

“Children’s children are the crown of old men;
and the glory of children are their fathers”
(Proverbs 17:6).

Love and Respect Marriage Conference – Part 2

We enjoyed the Love and Respect Marriage Conference. Before we went, we weren’t quite sure what to expect, because the book seemed fairly repetitive. So we weren’t sure if the conference would be the same way. Wow! It wasn’t at all. We found the live experience to be concise and amazing!

Steve felt Emerson Eggerichs was possibly the best speaker he had heard, both in the Christian and business arena. If you are familiar with Ted Talks, it was equal to and greater than those. 

The conference involved a reasonable amount of time. They packed an amazing amount of information into Friday night and Saturday morning, but the presentation riveted our attention. It was condensed and yet covered the key points, being highly practical.

This conference isn’t about breaking into small groups or couples having assignments to do together. It is all teaching time. Through out the conference we laughed, everyone else laughed, we saw husbands poking wives and smiling, and wives poking husbands and smiling.

There were 800 to 1000 in attendance at the Aurora conference, and the majority of couples were in their 20’s or 30’s although there were couples into their 60’s like Steve and me and even older.

Almost all went forward at the end to recommit their marriage to the Lord by implementing what was learned and asking forgiveness for past failures. Likely the ones who didn’t go forward weren’t going to try to move since the front filled up quickly and only the aisles were left for others.

It was clear that hearts were touched. Steve and my hearts were! After almost 43 years of marriage, we learned things that we are excited to put into practice in our marriage.

It was a simple, yet highly applicable, message that could transform a terrible marriage and energize a great one.

The proof in always in the fruit. We believe that the message was right—biblical and personal.  The fruit depends on whether those in attendance will implement it. From the stories shared, it is likely many will. That is exciting, especially with the number of young couples who were there.

Trusting in Jesus,

We had a nice dinner out after the conference.

“But the mercy of the Lord is from everlasting to
everlasting upon them that fear him,
and his righteousness unto children’s children.”
Psalm 103:17

The Generations Advance

Recently I did standardized testing for our 8-year-old homeschooled granddaughter, Abigail. It was a nostalgic time for many in our family.

Abby and I our first morning

As public schooled children, Steve and I received our standardized testing in our public school classrooms. Nathan and Christopher started standardized testing as homeschool students in the back room of a Christian bookstore. When we moved to Leavenworth and began leading the local homeschool group, my parents did the standardized testing for the homeschooled children at the Main Post Chapel on Ft. Leavenworth. Over time that facility was no longer available to us. Then my parents did the standardized testing for our children in their home – grandparents giving the standardized tests to their grandchildren.

Now my first grandchild has reached an age for standardized testing, and I am in a season of life where I have the time available to do that for her.

We planned four mornings for the testing, but with only one child being tested, we could go at her pace. Almost every test she finished in half the allotted time and that included double checking. In just two mornings from 9:00 to 11:15, she completed the whole Iowa Basic Skills battery. Of course, we had a break in the middle for a snack and some chatting.

For me it is a special season to move from the mothering tasks of homeschooling to the grand-mothering tasks of supporting the next generation in their homeschooling.

Trusting in Jesus,

Abby brought me chocolates our second day!

“A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and
a word spoken in due season, how good is it”
(Proverbs 15:23).

Love and Respect Marriage Conference – Part 1

Where is your marriage at? The pits? A step away from separation? Doing fine? Doing great? Over-the-top-fantastic?

In a counseling course Steve and I took last year, the instructor encouraged every married couple to attend marriage enrichment conferences on a regular basis—every year if possible. That challenged Steve and me because we so cherish occasional opportunities to get away alone together. We didn’t know if we wanted to share that time with sitting in sessions in a conference, but we began considering it.

We knew there was always something we could learn that would make our marriage even better. We also are on the lookout for resources for those who come to us with marriage problems, and there was also the possibility that if we went to a marriage retreat or conference it would be an encouragement for our married children to do the same.

I had a friend who read Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, and she told me how much she liked it (that’s Titus2’s affiliate link to Amazon, see our disclosure policy here). We had that book in our house, so I started to read it. I thought it was great, and then Steve and I started reading it together at night.

My friend later told me she had looked into a live marriage conference by Dr. Eggerichs, but they were too far away from her. Since I had liked the book, I decided to check in to the conferences too. Sure enough, in Denver, just 8 hours away, was a live conference the middle of February.

Steve and I gift each other with a night away for Mother’s and Father’s Day so we decided to make this trip our 2017 gifts. 

We drove to Denver Thursday afternoon, February 16th, attended the conference Friday evening and Saturday morning and drove home on Sunday. That gave us 16 hours of talking time while we drove, the conference itself, plus time before and after it to enjoy being together away from home.

In another post, I will give a report on the conference itself.

Trusting in Jesus,

“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be
to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives,
even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”
Ephesians 5:24-25

Polishing Wood Cabinets

If you have followed our blog for long, you know that periodically we polish the wood cabinets in our home. Several years ago, when we remodeled the home that Christopher and Anna Marie now own, we asked the lady from the cabinet making company, how to keep the oak cabinets in good condition.

She told us three things:

  • Dry hands before opening cupboard doors.
  • Use the handles. I thought we always used the handles, but she was right. When we watched ourselves we seldom did. We went for the bottom of the cabinet door rather than holding on to the handle.
  • Polish the cabinets yearly using Guardsmen Polish (that’s our affiliate link to Amazon where you can purchase it: you can read our affiliate disclosure here.)

We haven’t managed yearly cabinet polishing, but we do get around to it regularly. There were a couple of years when I expressed my inability to find cabinet-polishing time to Steve. He took a Saturday morning, and we all polished cabinets together,  finishing the project in short order.

My normal cabinet polishing plan is 1/2 hour a day until it is finished. You all know how much I love the power of 30 minutes a day! Several weeks ago, I started into that, and I was planning to do it myself, but Anna and Mary said they wanted to rearrange their schedules temporarily to help. With their help, obviously, the job took 1/3 of the time, and we greatly enjoyed our fellowship.

I must also say that I am blessed beyond measure to have girls who will volunteer to help me with a project. You young moms are planting now in your children’s lives, and the fruit is coming later. I know there are days when you can’t imagine that a child would choose to help without being asked, but I can encourage you it is coming!

If you plant the seeds of entertainment and self serving in your children’s lives, however, I think you will be disappointed with the fruit in their adult lives. On the other hand, If you persevere in teaching your children there is joy in serving and fellowship in working side by side, I am sure you will be delighted by the fruit in their adult lives.

Trusting in Jesus,

“The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing:
but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.” Proverbs 13:4

Hope for the Hopeless

I think the following story illustrates the great need for the information Managers of Their Homes and Managers of Their Chores contains. I was that struggling mom from this story at one time, trying to keep up and totally discouraged by it all. These books not only give hope to moms through direction and instruction, but they work in the real-life trenches of being a mommy.

“My name is Ryan. My husband and I have been married for nearly 10 years. For all 10 years, I have not been the best in the housewife department. When our three kids (who are homeschooled) came along, the house fell in disarray. I have cried and tried my best. I prayed for guidance because clearly I was missing something. After 10 years of looking, crying and praying I think I have found the guidance I have been longing for in your Managers books.

I have attempted to put together many schedules over the years, but they never work past the third week. I am just in awe I have finally found what I have looked for for so many years.

My mom was a single parent who worked many jobs. I had no idea or training on how to do the mom/housewife thing. I was pretty depressed recently over it. I prayed to God for help and guidance.

Then today while doing my online grocery shopping I saw I had a free pass for an audible book by Michael Duggar. In that book she mentioned y’all. I paused the book, looked up the website and read … then cried. I cannot tell you grateful I am.”

The end of Ryan’s story isn’t yet written, but I am confident there’s going to be a transformation in this young mommy’s life, in her family’s lives, and in her home. I am as excited as she is for the next chapter to be written.

Trusting in Jesus,

“But I will hope continually,
and will yet praise thee more and more.”
Psalm 71:14