Scheduling with Adult Children

I wrote this post earlier this year, but Sarah is just now using it. So Jesse is included in the pictures since it was pertinent to when I wrote it.

Here is another part of our series with questions you have asked for blog posts.

I would love to see a post about how you all schedule your time as a family with adult children still living at home. I know you’ve done a day in the life, but I’m more curious how you all use the Managers of Their Homes’ ideas now without little ones at home. For example, do you create your schedules separately? Do you work on scheduling together? How do you prioritize chores/tasks as a family when working around work schedules?

Scheduling has changed in our household now that our children still at home are all adults. We have some family basics in the schedule such as lunchtime, dinner time, and Bible time after dinner. Those basics are determined by what best fits with the whole family’s needs and work schedules. From there, each person schedules their own days, including bedtime, wake-up time, Bible time, exercise time, and work time. 

As far as chores, we look at the work schedules and figure out who can do what. I have picked up more of the kitchen responsibilities since the girls are working more hours and have ministry responsibilities when not working. But they each have one meal a week that they take responsibility for. We eat lunch together, but each person heats up what they want. We have continued with our long-time plan of housecleaning on Fridays and have kept the same chores for that for many years now. But we help each other when one isn’t able to do what they would normally do. For example, one week I was helping a lot at Christopher and Anna Marie’s. Anna was home with a mild cold. She volunteered to do my Friday chores for me. 

What about you? What are you doing in your homes with adult children? What works for you? What doesn’t work?

Trusting in Jesus,
Teri

“Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts,
we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world”
(Titus 2:12). 

9 thoughts on “Scheduling with Adult Children”

  1. Two in home school highschool and working; one graduated and owns own business: We actually have a paper calendar hung in the kitchen where everyone’s work days/hours, appointments/times and ministry/outside events are posted. Everyone can see it, we know who’s busy and when, and we each plan around those days and times. Weekdays, supper is a family event around our table, eating and sharing, but the hours do have to vary. We are trying to have one day a week when we share a meal with someone from extended family, as well. Not everyone can be at every evening meal each month, but we are together for most. Zones and chores are still done, but each person does them as their schedule permits. Doing family laundry is shared by all (certain loads on certain days), Mom does all the cooking (some days three different breakfast times!) except Friday night when the guys make pizza. Evening dishes are done by the males in the family…and they sing! All gather with church Sunday mornings, married son’s family comes for Sunday lunch. Half-birthdays Mom takes sons to lunch, even after they’re married. Dad takes a son to breakfast every couple of months.

    1. It changes when they are teens and young adults, doesn’t it. It looks like you have developed a great plan to accomplish what needs to be done, allow for work/ministry/school schedules, and keep relationships strong. The half birthday lunches are a great idea because on the birthday, life is usually pretty full that day.

  2. We have a pretty similar schedule like that of J.B. But sometimes some of the children has something they din’t tell me about then that is when it doesn’t always work.

  3. During the lockdown, scheduling has been such an essential part of my life! I can’t imagine not having had one: even if I was at home all the time, things would simply not have been done without a schedule.

    Trying to balance class time, preparing lessons, marking papers with keeping the house clean and tidy would have been so much more difficult without my schedule keeping me accountable and telling me exactly what I should be doing at any given time.

    Right now, I still stick to it, even though it has been revised to fit my current “non-lockdown” needs.
    I keep it on my fridge, as well as an electronic copy on my phone: I can add meetings, grocery shopping trips and more as I go along.

    A schedule has allowed me to maximize my time while being productive, instead of always having to wonder what it was that I needed to do next!

    Many blessings,

    Alice

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