Helping Boys Become Men

Just when do boys learn to enjoy work? When do they learn how to do tasks and chores that men do? When do they learn how satisfying a job well done is?

We have sought to involve our sons in projects as they grow up. (Preparing Sons to Provide for a Single-Income Family goes into that extensively.) Working together times include opportunities to teach skills, and have wonderful fellowship–a win/win.

We have been helping Christopher’s family more lately and Dad has been able to include Joshua in some of his projects. Here are some recent examples.

“For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands:
happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee.”
Psalm 128:2

9 thoughts on “Helping Boys Become Men”

  1. This is a very dear subject to me. We have 10 children 7 of them boys. Keeping them busy is so important! Bickering and wasting time can take over if we are not proactive in keeping them busy. We have found woodwork is a great way to keep them moving. Our oldest son is enjoying the challenge of splitting wood with an ax than with the log splitter. Our little boys have become proficient with unloading trailers of wood and stacking it. They love to show mama their muscles after! This week they are working on their 13th cord of wood.
    Also, lawn mowing, weed whacking, gardening. Give them plans on building things and let them give it a try. One son just built me raised garden boxes.
    Yes, complaining still happens from time to time but with the Lord’s help my husband and I can try to encourage them to become hard workers, which will truly pay off when they have their own families.
    Mrs S.

    1. That was very encouraging. Keeping them busy is so important. Kids today are so wrapped up in video games and playing on iPads. You all are so wise in directing the way they use their energy.

  2. Hi Sarah,
    How was your motion sickness on your drive to Ohio for the wedding? Curious if any of the recommended strategies worked.

    1. I might do an update on that. I’ve taken two trips since the post and tried some suggestions. But on the Ohio trip, I had to take Dramamine pretty fast. I was quite sick.

  3. I love this! We are empty nesters now, but my sister and I help take care of a young niece (our brother is a single dad). We’ve purposed to make this a time of investing in her, knowing it will impact her life. As I looked at the pictures of Steve and his little assistant, the thing that jumps out at me is the extra time it requires to teach our little ones, rather than doing it ourselves. I was just remarking to my sister this morning what an opportunity we have with our niece. She often grumbles at the onset of an activity, but so quickly changes her tune and gets involved! It’s important to seize these opportunities during the short window we have.

  4. Steve,
    What do I do if I don’t have any men in our lives that will do this with my boys? I can’t be mom AND dad to my boys. My motherhood duties consume all my time and I have nothing left to give after I get done. Or if I do try to teach them “men’s work”, it takes away from what I have to do, even though it is worth it! I hope that makes sense. I hate to be the “downer” on the post, but my heart is broken because my husband will not do anything with our boys- as in teaching them things “on purpose”. I have to even initiate getting them to mow the grass. I am seriously concerned about what skills they will have when they grow up. My oldest is already 15. I have tried to teach them to help clean the house and some cooking skills, but I know they don’t enjoy it. Seeing this post makes me happy for your children and grandchildren, but it makes me want to cry for my boys.

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