Growing Up Christian

Regularly people say to Steve or me that they didn’t grow up in a Christian home, therefore they don’t know how to have a Christian home. We like to encourage them with the fact that neither of us grew up in Christian homes either.

After our salvation, though, we began to grow as disciples of Christ, through God’s Word. That impacted our lives, teaching us how to have a Christian home, where Christ is part of every fiber of each day.

Both Steve and I went regularly to liberal churches on Sunday mornings as children, not ones where salvation is preached or taught. Our parents did not have personal relationships with Christ. They weren’t saved (born again, converted) until we were grown and no longer living at home.

What a joy it was for Steve and me to be saved early in our marriage and then to see our dads saved years later. Steve’s dad and mom divorced when he was a teen, and after his dad’s salvation, when Steve was in his 30’s, Steve’s dad wrote and said he was sorry for all that went on. At my dad’s salvation, he changed from his Army career being his life to his Lord Jesus being his life. Our moms were saved after we left home but before we were.

Each time you find yourself thinking or saying, “I didn’t grow up in a Christian home,” use that to be grateful for your salvation, pray for wisdom, and search the Scriptures for daily truth to live by.

Trusting in Jesus,

Steve and Teri Maxwell

“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and
that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast”
(Ephesians 2:8-9).

24 thoughts on “Growing Up Christian”

  1. Great thoughts! As Voddie Baucham has been known to say, dont use the excuse of letting your past dictate your future. It just means that your journey may be more Challenging than the person next to you.

  2. What an encouraging post! Thank you for sharing: it brings much comfort knowing that a Christian road can be travelled also later in life.

    God bless,


  3. This is good to know that your family came through difficult circumstances. our family has issues from past generations, including fatherless home and minority conditions.

    But because of salvation through repentance, we can see the strength in the redeemer to overcomes sin in this generation and in past generations.

    Growing up fatherless leaves a “hole” in the heart. Even if that father was a minority. As a wife I even feel that “hole” and mystery about human history and tribal issues.

    1. Yes, not growing up with a dad would leave a huge hole in the heart. Steve’s parents divorced when he was a teen, and even then, there was a hole in Steve’s heart. Maybe your comment about being a minority and tribal issues means that your family has Indian ancestry. I am so glad that our Savior offers salvation to all and is not a respector of persons.

  4. What sweet reward and blessings for living for Christ. Although we don’t know you personally, your writings have drawn us closer to our Lord and given us much wisdom throughout our walks. This post was wonderfully encouraging; neither my husband or I grew up in a Christian home, and He chose to save us before marriage and children. We pray diligently that He will call our parents to saving faith in Jesus Christ as well and speak and live before them every opportunity we can! Love to all the Maxwells!!

    1. Yes, pray diligently for your parents and let your light shine before them. I remember the weekend Steve and I, as married college students, were earning money by doing landscaping for my parents, who were moving into a new home. During a work break, I was talking to my dad about the Lord. He looked at me sternly, and said, “I don’t want you to EVER talk to me about those things again.” So all I could do then was pray, and God certainly mightily worked through the circumstances that brought my dad to Him.

  5. I love this! I felt like getting to raise my son in a Christian home was one of the ways in which God restored unto me what the locusts had taken away.

  6. Thank you so much for sharing your heart! It encourages me so much to read your story and especially what you commented about regarding your dad being so closed toward you sharing with him and how God changed his heart. Sometimes I get so discouraged about extended family not understanding or being willing to understand and it is so encouraging to see how the Lord used your diligence in seeking Him and praying for those you love to bring about such redeeming change. This truly blessed me.

  7. Morning! What an encouraging post! Thank you for sharing!
    This is so true…neither my husband or I grew up in a Christian home and after we got saved, that was the start of an ever-learning and growing journey! Often times we have felt the discouragement of, “if only we would have known this,” or, “why didn’t we hear this sooner” etc. but that is when our children remind us of how much we have grown and we can live in the newness of Christ. Also, not giving in to the doubts and fears that the enemy will whisper in you ears. As Paul wrote in Philippians, about forgetting those things that are behind and pressing toward the goal!
    I say this to encourage other Moms out there…keep walking on and letting the Lord be your guide and teacher no matter what your background is; some days will be hard but He will be there for you and He will give you wisdom on how to deal with a difficult circumstance etc. Remember, He gives beauty for ashes!
    And pray! Always pray…He will give you direction and grace!
    Thank you, Mrs. Maxwell for writing this today!
    God bless and be near to you!
    Many Blessings~

  8. I grew up in a Christian home, but it was lacking love…favoritism was displayed often, yet denied. I never felt “good enough” and always was compared with someone else and their accomplishments or looks. It was destructive, and until I married, I felt as though I’d never amount to be as good as “so and so.” I married a wonderful Godly man who loves me unconditionally and encourages and believes in me, and tells me that I am enough. I am complete in Christ! I can do my best, and try to do better, but I don’t have to be like everyone else. God gives each of his children DIVERSE gifts to use for His glory! I love my parents, but as a mom now myself, I want to change that pattern and encourage my children to be all that God has called them to be, and love them unconditionally, and individually. Each one is a one- of-a -kind, special creation of God!

    Thank you for this post, and for bearing with me as I express some of my thoughts. Your blog is an encouragement!

    1. Amy, I think your story shows us the reality that one can grow up in a Christian home without experiencing the love of Christ that should be there. In other words, growing up in a Christian home doesn’t guarantee that the fruit of the Spirit was present and a model for the next generation. How encouraging that you are blazing a new path of a real Christian home with real Christlike love in your family.

  9. This speaks to me on so many levels! I came to know the LORD when I was 17. Now, almost 10 years later, I am still the only one who is saved. However, I know that if I do my part (pray for them and let my life be the testimony of His love and grace), God will do the rest.

    Thank you for your encouraging posts! I appreciate that you always strive to “keep it real.”

  10. Thank you for the encouragement. I also came to know the Lord later in life. It was after my son was invited to a local church youth group with a friend, and he was saved. I was struggling as a single mom; their dad left me for another woman. I thought God hated divorced people, but my son’s youth workers told me He doesn’t; He hates divorce because it hurts so many people. They supported me in so many practical ways, and still do, and I am thankful to be learning to have a Christian home for my children, even though now there is only one fully living at home.
    My son is now in his last year of college, and is engaged to be married to a wonderful beautiful Christian young lady. She grew up in a Christian home right from the start. But the sad thing is, her parents will not accept my son as their son-in-law. They said he cannot be a good husband with such a role model for a dad. That he will probably end up doing the same thing to her as his dad did to me. We are all struggling with this, and seeking the Lord.
    Please pray for us. I have sent my future daughter-in-law your blog, in hopes that it brings encouragement to her, and maybe to her parents as well.

    1. That’s hard – your divorce and the struggle with your future-daughter-in-law’s parents thoughts about your son. So beautiful that you were saved and even without a dad in the home, made your home a Christian home for your children. Yes, I will pray.

  11. Many wonderful words and examples have been poured out by you and your entire family. My husband and I are grateful to God that you have responded to Him by being a teaching family of Joy and Faithfulness as a pattern to many who strive to give God glory in their lives. Yet having a practical example is like a map. Thank you for being that because it illuminates His Word that much more!

    1. Who could imagine that God could take two worldly, sinful people and draw them to Himself. The changes in our lives are so amazing, and we, too, are so grateful to Him, and give Him all the glory. Thank You, Jesus!

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