My son, Jesse, used to mow our lawn. Then I took over mowing from Jesse and began noticing weeds in the yard. When I wasn’t mowing, I didn’t see them, but once I started spending time with the lawn, there they were! The first step in getting rid of weeds is being aware that you have them.
I recommend you look closely at your children’s lives. Listen to them. How do they spend their time? What excites them? Observe. What “lights them up”? As you do this, you will likely start to see weeds in their lives. Our definition of weeds in the content-in-Christ yard— “activities that consume time or money that are not beneficial or edifying.”
It is amazing how little time many (most?) dads spend with their children. In Keeping Our Children’s Hearts we describe weekly meetings. If you aren’t having dedicated, purposeful, weekly, one-on-one talking time with each of your children, I plead with you to begin. Next to family Bible time, it’s the best investment you will make in their lives.
Weekly meetings will help you experience a genuine heart-connection with your children. You will also develop a hearing with them because as you share, they will listen. They may not automatically accept difficult challenges from you, but the beginning point is for them to hear your heart. This is critical to being able to redirect their hearts, time, and money. The first step, though, is recognizing the weeds.
“For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption;
but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life
everlasting” (Galatians 6:8).