Through our almost 41 years of marriage, Steve has made it a priority to nurture our relationship, give me a break from my normal household responsibilities, and figure out ways for us to have very special time for the two of us in the midst of raising a large, growing family.
I have a treasured file on my computer that lists any time that Steve and I have had a night or more away—just the two of us—the last 23 years. Would you believe when I counted, I have 39 different occasions? That averages more than 1.5 get a-ways for the two of us per year. Some of those we would have forgotten without the list.
Regrettably for the first 17 years of our marriage, I didn’t keep track of those outings. During the early years of our marriage, weekends away for the two of us were perhaps even more precious because we had to hire a babysitter in order to leave home. I wish I had a listing of those times as well.
I want to encourage you to keep memory lists—pretty easy with computers—of special events you want to be able to recall such as husband/wife retreats. It might seem at the moment that you will never forget, but 25 years later, memories aren’t quite what they used to be!
You might want to keep track of visits to grandparents or their visits to your home. Perhaps it is a listing of where and when you vacationed. You will likely have a photo record, but how easy is it over the course of a 50-year marriage to remember what year you vacationed and where you went based on combing back through photos?
I have even begun to keep a list of birthday and Christmas gifts I receive each year and who each was from. I use that list to mark when I write a thank you note for the gift, in addition to the ongoing record it provides for the future. I have been known, without keeping track, not to remember whether I wrote a thank you note for a specific gift or not.
I am sure you can come up with areas in your life that you would like to have a record concerning. Even if you didn’t start right at the beginning, now is better than never. Even though I don’t have the record of our first 17 years of Steve and my outings, I am very grateful for the 23 years that I do have. Had I not started then, I wouldn’t have what I have.
Trusting in Jesus,
This is how I feel when Steve plans our special get aways:
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ
also loved the church, and gave himself for it”