Final update on Nathan and Melanie’s Unborn Child Prayer Request

We needed to let you know that God has chosen to take this child home. We are left with many questions, most of which begin with “Why…” or “What if…” In time we hope to have some answers, but there are still many unknowns that we need to trust Him for – unknowns that will always be unknowns. It is amazing the hopes and dreams you can have for a little life even after just a few weeks.

Abigail is all the more precious to us, a little energetic bundle of joy. Last night we took her shopping for a new doll. We had planned on getting her one the past few weeks. Last night’s outing was the fulfillment of that unspoken promise, based on a hope that she will be a big sister some day. She was bouncing up and down in my arms as we perused the aisle selecting just the right one.

Once again, our evening Bible time closing hymn challenged us, particularly the fourth verse:

Soldiers of Christ, Arise

Leave no unguarded place, no weakness of the soul,
Take every virtue, every grace, and fortify the whole;
From strength to strength to on, Wrestle and fight and prayer
Tread all the powers of darkness down and win the well fought day.

Thank you for your loving prayer support.

Nathan

“And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

51 thoughts on “Final update on Nathan and Melanie’s Unborn Child Prayer Request”

  1. Nathan & Melanie
    We are so very sorry for your loss. You remain in our prayers.
    Blessings,
    Carl & Vania

  2. I’m so sad to hear this news. I hope Melanie is resting and healing. God has a plan that we just don’t know. It is so hard to understand why you have been chosen to suffer such losses. One day this will all be clear.

    Bless you, Melanie and Nathan.

  3. My heart goes out to you. We understand completely. We suffered from unexplained infertility and three miscarriages after we had two healthy babies. There was no medical explanation for the miscarriages, especially since we had no problems before. Then God blessed us with our precious Jacob, who is now four months old and was born healthy as could be! We look at him sometimes and still can’t believe that the Lord has given such beauty for ashes. Of course baby Jacob cannot replace the ones that we lost, and I still weep for my three babies that are already in heaven and I always will until I see them again. I am comforted, however, with the fact that at least we allowed the Lord the use of my womb, for whatever small length of time, and that we did not try to deny or control the creation of life.

    Nathan and Melanie, you are such a testament to the trust we should all have in Jesus. “Though he slay me….” You have suffered so much, and could easily cut off your fertility and never have to risk suffering the pain of loss again, yet you continue to trust in the Lord and His plan for your lives. May we all learn to develop that kind of faith in our Savior. God bless you.

  4. I am praying for your family to heal. Remember to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.” You are right that you may never have the answers that you want, but I pray that your family finds peace in all that has happened. *hugs*

  5. I’m so sorry to hear the news. Although we know God has a plan for this hardship, it is none the less HARD.

    Hurting for you,
    Maria

  6. May that Power indeed rest upon you.

    And may you feel the many many prayers being offered in your behalf.

  7. I am so sorry to read this. I hope that your faith, family and friends are sources of comfort, strength and hope at during this sad time.

  8. Just mailing to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and sending you all hugs.
    shelley p
    from over the pond

  9. Nathan and Melanie,

    I know in my heart that the day we meet the Lord not one of the questions we have now will matter anymore. I always try to take comfort by looking forward to that awesome day. I hope you both can be comforted too. Praying for you all.

    Stephanie

  10. I don’t always get to comment, but I read here and I pray for you both.God bless and strenght to you!

  11. I wanted to encourage you with this hymn that we love to sing as a family.

    He Hideth My Soul by Fanny J. Crosby (1820-1915)

    A wonderful Saviour is Jesus my Lord,
    A wonderful Saviour to me;
    He hideth my soul in the cleft of the rock,
    Where rivers of pleasure I see.

    A wonderful Saviour is Jesus my Lord,
    He taketh my burden away;
    He holdeth me up, and I shall not be moved,
    he giveth me strength as my day.

    With numberless blessings each moment He crowns,
    And filled with His fullness divine,
    I sing in my rapture, oh glory to God
    For such a Redeemer as mine!

    When clothed in His brightness, transported I rise
    To meet Him in clouds of the sky,
    His perfect salvation, His wonderful love
    I’ll shout with the millions on high.

    Refrain:
    He hideth my soul in the cleft of the rock
    That shadows a dry, thirsty land;
    He hideth my life in the depths of His love;
    And covers me there with His hand,
    And covers me there with His hand.
    ———————————
    May God bless you with His perfect peace.

  12. I am praying for peace and understanding for your family,nathan. Gods will is just that.His. peace to you.

  13. I am so sorry, dear ones. I do understand your loss.
    The other day in church, a statement was made. I don’t remember the exact wording but it struck me as a wonderful thought.
    It was, Whatever you are going through or WILL go through, be assured that God is in it and was there before you.
    I do know that you know this and are a wonderful testimony.
    Your whole family is in my prayers and in my thoughts.
    Blessings,
    Beth

  14. Oh, I am so sorry for you loss Nathan and Melanie! I’ll be keeping you and Melanie and in my daily prayers! May the Lord grant you a peace and comfort in this difficult time.

    ~Rachel~

  15. Dear Brother Nathan and Sister Melanie,
    You are in our purposed prayers. We are so very sorry for your loss. Your family has been a continual encouragement despite the hardships you’ve faced. To minister the sufficiency of God’s grace during our own trials can be difficult. Thank you for being used of God in all circumstances.
    Blessings.

  16. I am praying for the God of all comfort to give you His peace, His strength, and His grace. I praise Him for the testimony that you’re bearing for Him through this, for your faithfulness and trust in Him, by His grace. I am sorry for your loss.

  17. I am so very, very sorry. I’m sure you will all take beautiful care of each other during this hard time. Remain steadfast in Jesus and he will give you peace. Sent with love!

  18. Dear Nathan and Melanie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. May God wrap you in his arms and comfort you. Praying for Melanie’s physical and emotional healing also.

    God bless your family.

  19. Dear Nathan and Melanie,
    I just wanted you to know that we have been and will continue praying for you both.
    Love,
    Rebecca

  20. So sorry to hear of your precious loss. I’m sure little Abigail is indeed that much dearer to you both. I will remember your family in my prayers.

  21. We just miscarried last Sunday, Oct 25th, and we were 13 weeks along. We knew on Oct 7th, that there was concern, so October has been a long month of waiting. I was reading these verses yesterday, and I prayed them for Melanie, too. Psalms 73:23-26, 28. “Nevertheless I am continually with thee: thou hast holden me by my right hand. Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory. Whom have I in heaven but thee? and there is none upon earth that I desire beside thee. My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is my strength of my heart, and my portion for ever…But it is good for me to draw near to God: I have put my trust in the Lord God, that I may declare all thy works.” I pray God’s presence will overwhelm you today.

  22. My husband and I know your pain. We miscarried three times before we were able to have our two daughters, and I am now unable to have any more children. The wife of one of our pastors (who miscarried twice) encouraged me greatly by saying that if God chose to populate Heaven through her body, that it was His choice and she would joyfully, but tearfully, submit. They both encouraged us to celebrate the birth of our children, no matter what the day they were born on, that the child was born exactly when God planned for it to be born.

    You are in our prayers. We know your hearts are hurting. We pray that God will wrap you tightly in His arms and comfort you all. Thank you for your faithfulness and beautiful witness, even in severe trials. May God bless you richly in all ways.

    Anni

  23. Oh Nathan and Melanie, Our hearts are hurting for you and we are upholding you in prayer. We stopped school this morning for a time of prayer for you and your family. I know the Lord has used your lives through the trials you’ve face to bring glory to him and minister to so many. I know you love and trust Him fully. Yet I know your hearts are aching; He knows and understands. May He fill you again with His comfort and peace drawing you ever closer to Him. We love you so much.
    Love,
    Daniel and Jaynee and Family

    Every joy or trial falleth from above,
    Traced upon our dial by the Sun of Love,
    We may trust Him fully all for us to do,
    They who trust Him wholly find him wholly true.

    Stayed upon Jehovah hearts are fully blessed;
    Finding as He promise, perfect peace and rest.

    (Like a River Glorious)

  24. Dear Nathan and Melanie,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m hurting with you. We’ve been there twice so I know how you feel. Take care and God bless.
    Marie

  25. God bless you…may He lay a hand on your family for peace, grace, mercy, and love. Thinking of your family during this hard time.

    In Him,

    Shannon

  26. Nathan and Melanie,
    You are in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing your blessing of Abby, and letting us all watch her grow and brings smiles and joy. And the news of this little one brought me joy, too – what a gift. I’m so sorry for you loss.
    Peace,
    Leigh

  27. Nathan and Melanie,
    I am so sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers. May God bless you with the Peace that passes ALL understanding. -Jamie

  28. I have gotten “behind” in keeping up with the Maxwells, and am just now reading news from the past few weeks. I am so sorry for your loss, and will keep you all in my prayers. Keep leaning on the Lord, as He will sustain and guide you. Blessings from Georgia, Patti M.
    1 Peter 5:7

  29. Nathan and Melanie, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that Melanie is able to get some rest and healing, as you both need. Keeping you all in my prayers.

    Blessings, Mrs. Mari

  30. Dear Nathan and Melanie (and the entire extended family):

    My heart hurts so much for you this morning as I’m reading this. I am so very sorry for your loss. I am praying that the God of all comfort will comfort your hearts as only He can.

    Hugs,
    Debi

  31. I am so very sorry for your loss. It is so hard to accept that God is in control of, and that His will is done, in all things.

    O God of love, source of life,
    hear our prayers for Melanie.
    Her baby died before it ever came to birth.
    The blessing of your love
    was torn from her body,
    leaving her empty and devastated.
    Comfort her now in her sorrow.
    Restore her hope for a child to come.
    Give her courage and new delight
    in the days ahead.
    In good time, grant her a new life
    that her soul may rejoice
    and her body give birth;
    in Christ’s name we pray. Amen.

    –Vienna Cobb Anderson

  32. So, sorry for your loss. We have also had two born into heaven. Take time to grieve and we will continue to pray for God’s comfort.

  33. Dear Nathan and Melanie,

    We are so sorry for lost and will continue to pray for you and your whole family. I’ve been there once. I only knew for a week and half but was still very hard. The only thing that got me throuh was knowing that he( I had prayed for a boy) was in Heaven and that I will spend eternity with him.
    God Bless,
    Dawn H and kiddos

  34. Nathan, Melanie & Abigail,
    I will be praying for your family. Our family also knows the heartbreak of losing a child. We have lost 2 children in the last two years during the first trimester. The day before we lost our last baby (Dec.08) – I was listening to a song which words are:
    “Lord I know that You giveth, and I know, You take away, So just help me remember that You’ll never leave me, Lord I may not understand why things turn out the way they do. But I know that You’ll do, what’s best for me, so I’ll keep trusting You.” – (by the McKameys) –
    And -little did I know that the next day – I would learn that our baby had died – but – I have learned and believe – that God does know what is best – and even when we don’t understand – He loves us far more that we even comprehend. Again – I will pray for your family and that God will give you Grace and Strength during this loss.

  35. Grieving not without hope, we still grieve nonetheless. So sorry for the loss of your precious wee one. May the Lord fill you with comfort and peace, and even joy in the days to come.

    Grace,
    Mae

  36. Sorry to hear the news…you and Melanie will remain in our prayers. May the Lord comfort you in this hard time.
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    “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.” ~Ecc. 3:1-8

  37. My heart is absolutely broken for you both. :(:(:(:(

    You and Melanie have suffered so very much and all I can think is how much God must treasure you both, to entrust you with so much. I have been reading the book of Job and pondering these things. When you have been tried, you will come forth as gold. And you already are shining for Him. May God bless you and keep you, cause His face to shine upon you, lift up the light of His countenance upon you and give you peace. ((((HUGS)))),tears, and prayers.

  38. Melanie and Nathan, I am so very sorry to learn of the loss of your baby, I will remember you in my prayers, along with your sisters and brothers. So very often, aunts and uncles are overlooked at times like these, although they grieve, too.

  39. So sorry to read of your loss this afternoon, Nathan and Melanie (and Steve and Teri and all the fam.). Praying for the Lord’s comfort through yet another difficult valley.

  40. I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in June at ten weeks along. As devastating as it was, God has used it in a wonderful way, to shed light upon how very blessed we are to have three living children (this was my second miscarriage). I am a little bit more grateful for these precious souls He has seen fit to let me steward, as undeserving as I truly am. I know you all see your little Abigail (the name of my third child, coincidentally) in the same light.
    May God bless and keep you through this trial, and bring beauty from it.

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